Showing posts with label dating ideas. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating ideas. Show all posts

Saturday, November 27, 2010

How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

I want to confess something. I tried with all my guts on framing one of those quintessential points-to-be-noted and tips-to-successful-love articles, but couldn't. Most of the writeups you'll find online will serve that purpose - there are experts and tipsters sitting online shelling advice on how to make a guy want you, love you, etcetera etcetera. My apologies here, but I beg to differ. I am not one of those typical old-hands experienced in making any and every guy fall in love with me, dishing out things-to-do-or-not-to-do, or should I say, beguiling readers - not that I didn't try doing it with all my heart in my teenage years. But then, that doesn't mean I do not have enough practicality to offer.

I do not promise to give a foolproof solution to those heebie-jeebies you experience every time you see that guy, but can state one thing right at the outset, that in order to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, just let him take his own sweet time. Today, when I just chanced upon bestowing life to words over men and relationships, I decided that this one would have words and thoughts of my own choice, and not the ones that are typically expected out of pieces of writing dedicated to inside information on dating. The following words are all about what I have to say about how to make him fall in love, with you. For ever.

Making Him Yours, Forever

I remember those days of high school. When a girl starts thinking about a guy in that way. When she makes sure she is dressed at her best for school. When just one glance of the guy would be enough to make her day. Friends know it all, but the guy she loves doesn't. That's when the girl starts writing a diary, a personal one. She becomes friends with roses in her garden, and plays around with the rose petals on a daily basis, chanting 'does he like me, does he not, does he like me, does he not!'. She sees him everyday, but they never talk much. All he knows is that she's just another girl in the school. When nothing works, she reasons out why isn't she good enough for the guy, drawing out the weirdest of conclusions in the world.

I know all of it, yes I do. You see, the most important thing in this case is to, at least, make your presence felt to him. You need not be outspoken, but always be ready to help him. Not because you want him to feel you're a slave, but because you like doing it for him. Guys have a habit of taking things in the wronger way, when it comes to girls (did I sound chauvinistic?). The more candid you are, the more he thinks of you as 'available', obviously for all the wrong reasons. Better maintain your own limits, and don't rush out helping him in carrying his books, bringing food for him from home, or doing his homework. You wouldn't want him to think of you as a free-of-cost personal assistant, would you? Rather, talk to him about things of his interest, without being fake. Do not claim to like things which he likes, and end up lying just because you overheard some silly do's and dont's on how to make a guy like you, whatever way it be. Be what you are - never compromise on your beliefs and ethics. I believe, if you lie to a person, you do not deserve to love them. As simple as that!

What strikes the chord in guys is how well you be the girl of their dreams. Learning how to attract men is easy, but actioning the same is pretty difficult. When you're his friend, you tend to talk about his kinda girl, either while watching a rom-com, or at instances when any of the much-desirable hotties of the school just passes by. You judge what he tends to like about girls. It's then that you can incorporate the same in you. Dress the way he likes, generate interests of similar kinds, all for him. All to know him better. All to let him know you better. However, there's just one thing. Never tell him that you did it for him. This way, he'd straightaway get an idea that you like him, and may just like you for the same. Love you? Can't be sure of that, or if your stars are in alignment, may be Yes.

From what I could conclude about relationships, expectations is the root of all causes. You expect, you're left heart-broken, you get up on your feet, just to expect and break your heart once again. Hard-hitting as it may sound, just don't expect him to love you back. You'll do a number of things for him, expecting the best of the comments, which sometimes, may appear to you as the worst of what you had expected. This does nothing but hurt you even more. Surprise him on his birthday, but don't expect him to even remember yours. Call him on an important day, but don't expect your phone to ring when you're having a tough time. Some teeny-weeny little things that you do for him might not leave him speechless, but he's noting every move. Be his best-friend. Don't expect him to be one. Life's happier, and content. This may sound like some conventional relationship advice, but then, who could escape these cliched, but heartrending truths that love tangles along with itself? Shed out everything for him, but only if he's ready to receive it with all his heart. He'll love you for everything you've done. One fine day.

This was one of the many extracts of my experience on ambiguities brimming how to make a guy fall in love with you. Fully cognizant of the fact that I am, I haven't been much successful in deciphering exactly what to say to a guy you like, or what to do to make him want you. Still adamant of the fact, there are no tricks, whatsoever, on how to make a guy fall in love with you, let alone simply and easily. However, that doesn't mean you should stop making efforts. Should there be any tips and tricks, it would only be to let him know about your feelings at the earliest. A response from the opposite side might take time, but as of now, I'm content as I could contribute a bit in manipulating those butterflies in your stomach, could I?

How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

I want to confess something. I tried with all my guts on framing one of those quintessential points-to-be-noted and tips-to-successful-love articles, but couldn't. Most of the writeups you'll find online will serve that purpose - there are experts and tipsters sitting online shelling advice on how to make a guy want you, love you, etcetera etcetera. My apologies here, but I beg to differ. I am not one of those typical old-hands experienced in making any and every guy fall in love with me, dishing out things-to-do-or-not-to-do, or should I say, beguiling readers - not that I didn't try doing it with all my heart in my teenage years. But then, that doesn't mean I do not have enough practicality to offer.

I do not promise to give a foolproof solution to those heebie-jeebies you experience every time you see that guy, but can state one thing right at the outset, that in order to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, just let him take his own sweet time. Today, when I just chanced upon bestowing life to words over men and relationships, I decided that this one would have words and thoughts of my own choice, and not the ones that are typically expected out of pieces of writing dedicated to inside information on dating. The following words are all about what I have to say about how to make him fall in love, with you. For ever.

Making Him Yours, Forever

I remember those days of high school. When a girl starts thinking about a guy in that way. When she makes sure she is dressed at her best for school. When just one glance of the guy would be enough to make her day. Friends know it all, but the guy she loves doesn't. That's when the girl starts writing a diary, a personal one. She becomes friends with roses in her garden, and plays around with the rose petals on a daily basis, chanting 'does he like me, does he not, does he like me, does he not!'. She sees him everyday, but they never talk much. All he knows is that she's just another girl in the school. When nothing works, she reasons out why isn't she good enough for the guy, drawing out the weirdest of conclusions in the world.

I know all of it, yes I do. You see, the most important thing in this case is to, at least, make your presence felt to him. You need not be outspoken, but always be ready to help him. Not because you want him to feel you're a slave, but because you like doing it for him. Guys have a habit of taking things in the wronger way, when it comes to girls (did I sound chauvinistic?). The more candid you are, the more he thinks of you as 'available', obviously for all the wrong reasons. Better maintain your own limits, and don't rush out helping him in carrying his books, bringing food for him from home, or doing his homework. You wouldn't want him to think of you as a free-of-cost personal assistant, would you? Rather, talk to him about things of his interest, without being fake. Do not claim to like things which he likes, and end up lying just because you overheard some silly do's and dont's on how to make a guy like you, whatever way it be. Be what you are - never compromise on your beliefs and ethics. I believe, if you lie to a person, you do not deserve to love them. As simple as that!

What strikes the chord in guys is how well you be the girl of their dreams. Learning how to attract men is easy, but actioning the same is pretty difficult. When you're his friend, you tend to talk about his kinda girl, either while watching a rom-com, or at instances when any of the much-desirable hotties of the school just passes by. You judge what he tends to like about girls. It's then that you can incorporate the same in you. Dress the way he likes, generate interests of similar kinds, all for him. All to know him better. All to let him know you better. However, there's just one thing. Never tell him that you did it for him. This way, he'd straightaway get an idea that you like him, and may just like you for the same. Love you? Can't be sure of that, or if your stars are in alignment, may be Yes.

From what I could conclude about relationships, expectations is the root of all causes. You expect, you're left heart-broken, you get up on your feet, just to expect and break your heart once again. Hard-hitting as it may sound, just don't expect him to love you back. You'll do a number of things for him, expecting the best of the comments, which sometimes, may appear to you as the worst of what you had expected. This does nothing but hurt you even more. Surprise him on his birthday, but don't expect him to even remember yours. Call him on an important day, but don't expect your phone to ring when you're having a tough time. Some teeny-weeny little things that you do for him might not leave him speechless, but he's noting every move. Be his best-friend. Don't expect him to be one. Life's happier, and content. This may sound like some conventional relationship advice, but then, who could escape these cliched, but heartrending truths that love tangles along with itself? Shed out everything for him, but only if he's ready to receive it with all his heart. He'll love you for everything you've done. One fine day.

This was one of the many extracts of my experience on ambiguities brimming how to make a guy fall in love with you. Fully cognizant of the fact that I am, I haven't been much successful in deciphering exactly what to say to a guy you like, or what to do to make him want you. Still adamant of the fact, there are no tricks, whatsoever, on how to make a guy fall in love with you, let alone simply and easily. However, that doesn't mean you should stop making efforts. Should there be any tips and tricks, it would only be to let him know about your feelings at the earliest. A response from the opposite side might take time, but as of now, I'm content as I could contribute a bit in manipulating those butterflies in your stomach, could I?

Monday, August 30, 2010

What Attracts Men to Women

Primal instincts are still embedded in the DNA of men and they will always be there... seems so, for eternity. Mating instincts of men haven't changed since the inception of life on this Universe. When it comes to men, it boils down to sex and then some more sex. And with dating being highly overrated and hyped in this era, women going for asset-improvement procedures can't be blamed.

While 'the bold and the beautiful' girl is a dream for every guy, what 'attracts men to women', is purely a subjective question and presents itself to intense scrutiny and analysis. The complexity in coming to an apt conclusion about the question, 'what attracts men to women' in relationships is that, with age, desires, expectations and 'wants' of men change. Being a man, I believe, we can be best classified into three age groups by what men find attractive in women as age advances.
  • Teenage: In these formative years, men yearn for a blonde (that 'complete package' you know – slim, really round and beautiful). Mostly, men get lost in 'matter' over 'mind' during these years. Put forward simply, men hardly know what they want in a women in these years.
  • Adulthood: Now, we understand, we don't want only that S-factor. Our mind and heart start looking out for someone with whom we can share our life. Before going for that run-away word 'commitment', almost every dimension of the girl's personality is analyzed viz., physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, social etc., not necessarily in the same order. The criteria for men who want long term relationships are far more different than what men look out for while hooking up in a short term relationship.
  • Middle Age: Freud has given something to men to ponder over (and too some extent get afraid of it) during middle aged years - the mid life crisis. In this age (40-60 years), men instead of making a smooth transition to old age, tend to get deviated towards some extra marital affairs, only to end up creating a mess of their married life.
So, now I have validated a significant point about 'what attracts men to women' - that is age and maturity level in life. But I won't be totally subjective here. There are some things that attracts men to women and they're established facts, some timeless things men love about women. I state here what men want women to know. Know them further...

Physical Beauty
By not sounding chauvinistic and as stated earlier, I would say, the 'complete package' is really a turn-on for guys but we don't over-rate this parameter (at least some of us). This must be equally true for women too, when dating men. We don't want our girl to be a supermodel but we would be glad, if she keeps herself healthy, fit and takes care of her body. It's as simple as that. Otherwise, dreaming of characters of Oscar winning movies and those mentioned in fiction books, would leave us grossly dissatisfied. I would also like to state a very simple fact about 'what attracts men to women'. It is not only physical looks but more often their dressing sense that attracts men. Hiding and flaunting physical assets in a subtle way, really makes a huge difference in a woman's appearance.

Spiritual Beauty
If you ask me, what attracts men to women besides physical beauty, it is - the spiritual beauty of a women. We love to listen to you talking, laughing and expressing yourself. The poise and confidence you show in your personality and the subtle gestures of your eyes, all attract us significantly. But we really don't like dumb girls. On the contrary, we want a woman who is intelligent and can stir our energies to better pursuits than the sole objective of female chasing. An intelligent lady who can really read our minds is a great attraction. Love and care are some other intangible qualities we secretly wish our lady to have in abundance. Ask any macho or alpha men, all love to be cared and desired for, no matter how many girls are there in the bee-line to woo them.

What men like in women is certainly a mix of all qualities that really matter in life. The real beauty of a woman is in her heart and outlook towards her life. If she is the one who can discuss you about anything and everything under the sky, you know you have got that spark to be together.

Lastly, I earnestly believe that 'what attracts men to women' is a question that must be best left for every men to decide as every individual is unique and has his own perception about healthy relationships. Some men, more or less, are equally confused human beings as ladies and so answering the question what men want in a woman is certainly something very personal to each of us. In fact, men often feel better if they're occasionally pampered and assured by their love that she is out there, with him and yeah! The relationship is beautiful.

Women, do make a note of that point. Believe us, we do get ready to be with you (just like you're ready to be with us) irrespective of any of the factors missing in you, cos' ultimately love is also very important for us and we do love you... For men, I have a quote, that I would like to share 'A real men doesn't love millions of girls, he loves a girl in a million ways.'What say guys? Love her in a trillion ways! She is ultimately, your love! This is where I bid adieu to you!

What Attracts Men to Women

Primal instincts are still embedded in the DNA of men and they will always be there... seems so, for eternity. Mating instincts of men haven't changed since the inception of life on this Universe. When it comes to men, it boils down to sex and then some more sex. And with dating being highly overrated and hyped in this era, women going for asset-improvement procedures can't be blamed.

While 'the bold and the beautiful' girl is a dream for every guy, what 'attracts men to women', is purely a subjective question and presents itself to intense scrutiny and analysis. The complexity in coming to an apt conclusion about the question, 'what attracts men to women' in relationships is that, with age, desires, expectations and 'wants' of men change. Being a man, I believe, we can be best classified into three age groups by what men find attractive in women as age advances.
  • Teenage: In these formative years, men yearn for a blonde (that 'complete package' you know – slim, really round and beautiful). Mostly, men get lost in 'matter' over 'mind' during these years. Put forward simply, men hardly know what they want in a women in these years.
  • Adulthood: Now, we understand, we don't want only that S-factor. Our mind and heart start looking out for someone with whom we can share our life. Before going for that run-away word 'commitment', almost every dimension of the girl's personality is analyzed viz., physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, social etc., not necessarily in the same order. The criteria for men who want long term relationships are far more different than what men look out for while hooking up in a short term relationship.
  • Middle Age: Freud has given something to men to ponder over (and too some extent get afraid of it) during middle aged years - the mid life crisis. In this age (40-60 years), men instead of making a smooth transition to old age, tend to get deviated towards some extra marital affairs, only to end up creating a mess of their married life.
So, now I have validated a significant point about 'what attracts men to women' - that is age and maturity level in life. But I won't be totally subjective here. There are some things that attracts men to women and they're established facts, some timeless things men love about women. I state here what men want women to know. Know them further...

Physical Beauty
By not sounding chauvinistic and as stated earlier, I would say, the 'complete package' is really a turn-on for guys but we don't over-rate this parameter (at least some of us). This must be equally true for women too, when dating men. We don't want our girl to be a supermodel but we would be glad, if she keeps herself healthy, fit and takes care of her body. It's as simple as that. Otherwise, dreaming of characters of Oscar winning movies and those mentioned in fiction books, would leave us grossly dissatisfied. I would also like to state a very simple fact about 'what attracts men to women'. It is not only physical looks but more often their dressing sense that attracts men. Hiding and flaunting physical assets in a subtle way, really makes a huge difference in a woman's appearance.

Spiritual Beauty
If you ask me, what attracts men to women besides physical beauty, it is - the spiritual beauty of a women. We love to listen to you talking, laughing and expressing yourself. The poise and confidence you show in your personality and the subtle gestures of your eyes, all attract us significantly. But we really don't like dumb girls. On the contrary, we want a woman who is intelligent and can stir our energies to better pursuits than the sole objective of female chasing. An intelligent lady who can really read our minds is a great attraction. Love and care are some other intangible qualities we secretly wish our lady to have in abundance. Ask any macho or alpha men, all love to be cared and desired for, no matter how many girls are there in the bee-line to woo them.

What men like in women is certainly a mix of all qualities that really matter in life. The real beauty of a woman is in her heart and outlook towards her life. If she is the one who can discuss you about anything and everything under the sky, you know you have got that spark to be together.

Lastly, I earnestly believe that 'what attracts men to women' is a question that must be best left for every men to decide as every individual is unique and has his own perception about healthy relationships. Some men, more or less, are equally confused human beings as ladies and so answering the question what men want in a woman is certainly something very personal to each of us. In fact, men often feel better if they're occasionally pampered and assured by their love that she is out there, with him and yeah! The relationship is beautiful.

Women, do make a note of that point. Believe us, we do get ready to be with you (just like you're ready to be with us) irrespective of any of the factors missing in you, cos' ultimately love is also very important for us and we do love you... For men, I have a quote, that I would like to share 'A real men doesn't love millions of girls, he loves a girl in a million ways.'What say guys? Love her in a trillion ways! She is ultimately, your love! This is where I bid adieu to you!

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Flirting Tips for Men

Finding it difficult to attract the most attractive woman you know and think you have begun to like? Wanting to flirt with her but not finding the right ways and words? Well, I must tell you, you are not alone. Most men face the same problem, and one of the most common reasons behind that is, we men are not able to communicate what we want to, through our body language. And that's exactly what girls have a keen eye on. No doubt, we can start a conversation with a girl, but as the 'relationship' progresses, we remain 'just friends' and are unable to get to the next step. This is where flirting helps. But then how to flirt with a girl? How do you know that your actions and words are attracting her to you? The following paragraphs will give some flirting tips for men, so that you know what to do, to get her attracted to you. You also need to look at the flirting signs which would signify whether the girl is interested in you.

Best Flirting Tips for Men

One of the most important things you need to remember while speaking to a girl is not to show your desperation. Women hate it, and is a sure turn off, you can never expect her to be attracted to you. Be humorous, be funny; this would make the girl want to talk to you over and over again. Don't burden her with a serious or controversial topic, as it may portray you as an uninteresting or boring individual.

Confidence is another important trait which girls look for in a guy, so you need to be sure of what you say and do. This is one of the most important successful flirting tips for guys, as girls don't like to 'go about' with a guy having a negative personality. Women are attracted to men who are confident and positive about life.

Complimenting her on her looks and clothes, is another turn on for women. It's not only for men, but one of the important flirting tips for girls as well. When you tell girls that they look attractive, the chances are that, the girl would understand you are interested in her. But you should know when to tell that. Besides, girls have a tendency to talk a lot (though not all). So listen to what they have to say. If you interrupt them, they may not like it.

One of the important flirting tips and tricks is to make the woman feel special. When you are close to your dream girl, make sure you are 'with' her, both mentally and physically. Don't eye other women while you are with her. That will create a very bad impression of you on her and that's a complete no-no if you are serious about getting her attracted to you. Not giving her time and attention would turn her off. Your behavior and body language with other women speak of you and your personality.

Texting Flirting Tips for Men

Try sending her flirty text messages. Take time to think what to send. You can always start your written conversation by asking her about her day. Whatever you talk about through texting, make sure that it does not get too personal, or girls may be disgusted by it. You can send her a flirty text message every day or just a 'good morning' or 'good night' message. This would attract their attention to you. An important flirting tip for texting to remember here is, don't send messages late at night, girls may not appreciate it, unless of course they say it's fine with them. You can also go through these flirting lines for men so that you know what to say and what not to.

Avoid the overuse of abbreviations while sending flirting text messages. If the woman you are sending it to, is not aware of those words, she may not understand, what you mean to say. And that will defeat the whole purpose. Once you send a message, don't send messages in quick succession. Instead, give her time to get back to you. Wait for her response. And if she calls or send a message back, that's a sign, she is interested.

Make sure that you don't misspell words while texting, this can make or break your chances of further advances. While sending a message, it's always better to be slightly indirect, least she takes your advances in the wrong way. It helps because you never know how she would react to your messages, and this would help you flirt without she even realizing what you are upto (wink). There are many other ideas of how to flirt with a girl. Pick the ones you are comfortable with.

So use these flirting tips for men, and see your dream girl take interest in you, and once she is interested in you, you can safely advance to the next step of going out for a date. However, you need to ensure that your dream girl does not take offense of you making any kind of flirtatious remarks.

Flirting Tips for Men

Finding it difficult to attract the most attractive woman you know and think you have begun to like? Wanting to flirt with her but not finding the right ways and words? Well, I must tell you, you are not alone. Most men face the same problem, and one of the most common reasons behind that is, we men are not able to communicate what we want to, through our body language. And that's exactly what girls have a keen eye on. No doubt, we can start a conversation with a girl, but as the 'relationship' progresses, we remain 'just friends' and are unable to get to the next step. This is where flirting helps. But then how to flirt with a girl? How do you know that your actions and words are attracting her to you? The following paragraphs will give some flirting tips for men, so that you know what to do, to get her attracted to you. You also need to look at the flirting signs which would signify whether the girl is interested in you.

Best Flirting Tips for Men

One of the most important things you need to remember while speaking to a girl is not to show your desperation. Women hate it, and is a sure turn off, you can never expect her to be attracted to you. Be humorous, be funny; this would make the girl want to talk to you over and over again. Don't burden her with a serious or controversial topic, as it may portray you as an uninteresting or boring individual.

Confidence is another important trait which girls look for in a guy, so you need to be sure of what you say and do. This is one of the most important successful flirting tips for guys, as girls don't like to 'go about' with a guy having a negative personality. Women are attracted to men who are confident and positive about life.

Complimenting her on her looks and clothes, is another turn on for women. It's not only for men, but one of the important flirting tips for girls as well. When you tell girls that they look attractive, the chances are that, the girl would understand you are interested in her. But you should know when to tell that. Besides, girls have a tendency to talk a lot (though not all). So listen to what they have to say. If you interrupt them, they may not like it.

One of the important flirting tips and tricks is to make the woman feel special. When you are close to your dream girl, make sure you are 'with' her, both mentally and physically. Don't eye other women while you are with her. That will create a very bad impression of you on her and that's a complete no-no if you are serious about getting her attracted to you. Not giving her time and attention would turn her off. Your behavior and body language with other women speak of you and your personality.

Texting Flirting Tips for Men

Try sending her flirty text messages. Take time to think what to send. You can always start your written conversation by asking her about her day. Whatever you talk about through texting, make sure that it does not get too personal, or girls may be disgusted by it. You can send her a flirty text message every day or just a 'good morning' or 'good night' message. This would attract their attention to you. An important flirting tip for texting to remember here is, don't send messages late at night, girls may not appreciate it, unless of course they say it's fine with them. You can also go through these flirting lines for men so that you know what to say and what not to.

Avoid the overuse of abbreviations while sending flirting text messages. If the woman you are sending it to, is not aware of those words, she may not understand, what you mean to say. And that will defeat the whole purpose. Once you send a message, don't send messages in quick succession. Instead, give her time to get back to you. Wait for her response. And if she calls or send a message back, that's a sign, she is interested.

Make sure that you don't misspell words while texting, this can make or break your chances of further advances. While sending a message, it's always better to be slightly indirect, least she takes your advances in the wrong way. It helps because you never know how she would react to your messages, and this would help you flirt without she even realizing what you are upto (wink). There are many other ideas of how to flirt with a girl. Pick the ones you are comfortable with.

So use these flirting tips for men, and see your dream girl take interest in you, and once she is interested in you, you can safely advance to the next step of going out for a date. However, you need to ensure that your dream girl does not take offense of you making any kind of flirtatious remarks.